You don’t need discipline.
Here’s the thing…
Self-reverence, often confused with “discipline,” can feel really hard when you don’t have energy.
Basic physical energy. That get-up-and-go feeling.
When your adrenals are burned out.
When you’re not getting enough of the right nutrients for your specific body.
When you’re leaking energy.
Common energy leaks: Social media, TV, draining relationships, lack of boundaries, constant availability, lack of alone time and self-care.
When you have your energy, it’s easier to honor yourself.
To simply do what works for you. To feed yourself rather than draining yourself.
To have self-reverence.
But you don’t need discipline.
You might need discipline to climb Mt Everest, but you don’t need it to go about your daily life, when you’re living in alignment.
When a baby is at the edge of the couch, about to fall, it doesn’t take discipline to go grab them.
It’s truly, deeply the same when you’re in loving relationship with your whole self – all aspects of you, and especially your inner child. Your inner being. Your soul.
If you’re relying on discipline, on force, you’re going to get exhausted.
Studies have even shown that willpower runs out, and we’ve all felt that phenomenon.
I used to use discipline and willpower to stop myself from overeating… and that approach not only led me to overeat, it led me into tunnel-vision binges.
When I stopped resisting food and creating tension, I completely healed overeating.
I lost the overeating “gene” – not exaggerating.
First I had to let myself eat anything, in any amount, at any time.
I had to give myself full freedom to eat, even if it meant overeating at first.
I had to soothe myself and remind myself that I am safe, even if I overeat.
From there, I eventually got sick of feeling uncomfortably full, and completely stopped overeating.
There’s no longer discipline required around food, today.
I just do what works for me.
Overeating would zap my energy, my life force.
I respect myself. I love myself. I have deep self-reverence.
That’s that.
It isn’t about discipline, it’s about surrender.
Surrendering to what actually feels good, on every level, beyond the fleeting moment.
Relaxing into that.
Allowing yourself to feel good.
Allowing yourself to receive all the resources that exist to support you.
Becoming available to be your highest self, and in that, serving the greatest good of all.
So the questions to ask yourself are:
Where are my energy leaks?
They could be physical, emotional, energetic, or all of the above.
How can I close them up?
How can I respect and love myself?
We are not meant to fight ourselves, to be at war with ourselves or outside forces.
Your body wants to support you. Food wants to support you. Food exists to support you.
The Universe wants to support you.
Other people want to support you.
We’re designed to live in community.
No one is out to get you.
This is not a war zone… and even when it feels like it, true self-love and reverence will make everything feel easier, and bring about resolution faster.
Move forward with love, first for yourself.
Read Letting Go by David Hawkins.
I love you. You’re beautiful. Have a magical day.
XO,
Lula
P.S. A new master class is coming up! If you want to heal overeating, join me for Satisfied, where I’ll be sharing my process to free yourself from overeating, for good.